Might come as a surprise to my friends but I want my wedding to be very simple. Maybe because this is how I want to bid goodbye to my fun and fancy single-life. I want our wedding to be minimal up to the tiniest detail. Quaint church, intimate reception, plain gown, just downright simple! Also, I just can't believe how weddings have become very complicated and elaborate these days and although following the trend is nice and all, I'm straying away from that.
First of all, me and H2B are not a wealthy couple. Yup, we are not rich. We consider ourselves "not rich" and you can't convince us that we are well-off no matter what you say. Haha! And while we want our wedding to be very special and we are tempted to go off our tabs just to make that happen, it all boils down to one point - we are not rich.
Aside from budget constraints, I don't believe in spending the money that you still don't have. I can understand why some couples would want to get a loan just to have their dream wedding. That's their choice and I am not at all against it. Let's admit it, once you're into the wedding planning, you will move heaven and Earth just to have the most beautiful wedding because this is a once-in-a-lifetime event and it's a very important milestone in our lives. I also have to admit, as a recovering shopaholic with a fancy for the beautiful and pricey things, I am tempted to spend all of my moolah including H2B's up to the very last cent but I have to control myself... This is a personal test of how mature I am now. I can't act like I've been acting before. I'm getting married and will start a family for Pete's sake! I need to grow up and it starts with holding on to my emotions when I am tempted to splurge on our wedding. Haha!
Have you also been researching on all things weddings these days? OMG!!! Since when did we need to have a "Will you be" card and gift? I thought you just need to have a nice lovely chat with your friends and tell them that you want them to be part of your entourage? And who invented "Save-the-Date" card and video? This is just adding up to an already stressful wedding planning! Sure they are all so very nice and pretty to have but what about us who can't afford these things? We are being left out here with all these inventions that people are doing just to earn money. I really need to hold on to myself and not be tempted to spend on these insignificant things (sorry. we all have our own opinions). If ever I'm convinced that I need these things (because these stuff are really tempting especially because everybody have them), I promise that I will not spend a dime (or at least not spend my H2B's money).
So there, after seeing countless photos and videos of beautiful weddings, I swear that when I'm tempted to go the Manila Cathedral+Sofitel or St James Alabang+Bellevue route, I will remember the reasons why once in my life, I swore on a the simplest wedding. Anyway, love is not complicated so why will I complicate our happily-ever-after? :)
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Monday, September 27, 2010
Sunday, September 26, 2010
almost booked!
614 days to go!!! It's still so far away but sometimes, I get so very much tempted to book suppliers already. I was at the Themes and Motifs wedding expo at the SMX convention last Saturday, September 25 and I almost book a video, photo and invites supplier. I couldn't help myself! Good thing, I remembered to consult things first with H2B since it's his money anyways.Haha!
I was ready to give the 10K downpayment to Phoeben Teocson videography. I actually had the chance to talk to him in the bridal fair. He seemed very humble and friendly. The rates are still the same as what he have in his website but he gives out more than 10K worth of freebies. As soon as I knew that a crane will be part of the freebies, I was sold. I saw his works online and both H2B and I are impressed! And the crane, oh the crane!!! Me likey!!! We we're actually quite sure that we want him to cover our wedding even if we haven't browsed all the other videographers out there so, why not give him 10K and lock the price and block the date?
I also almost booked Chito Vecina and Ramon Bautista as our photographers. Their are actually seasoned photographers and they both have worked for Inquirer and covered the weddings of celebrities like Claudine Barreto and Cheska Garcia. Chito's style is more on photojourn while Ramon's is more fashion-y. They actually have different teams but they have collaborated only for the expo. Their photo+video packages are also very affordable considering their talents and experience. I guess the drawback is that I haven't heard of their names in the wedding forums but they have explained to me that it's only recently that they are concentrating on wedding photography as a business; they we're inspired with the different celebrity weddings that they have covered. Plus, let's admit it. Wedding planning is becoming an industry already. *sigh
Even with all that pros for Chito and Ramon, I'm actually half-hearted yet because I also like Paul Vincent. He was also recommended of my very close, photo-enthusiast friends. My friends actually regret getting NicePrint and not getting Paul Vincent instead. I trust my friends and I've seen the works of Paul Vincent and me and H2B both liked it so much! I also saw him in the expo and I have the same feelings when I saw Phoeben, I was starstruck. The person behind the pictures and videos I've been drooling on are actually right in front of my face! They are both very talented individuals and I as soon as I saw thier works, I'm already a big fan. I want to book him too!!! Haha!
As for the invites, I actually talked to Wingdingz and Printed Matter. Wingdingz have very fresh yet elegant invites and the girl I've been chatting was so chica! Their prices are also affordable but then, I am really not particular with the invites. I've made invites for my own debut, both my sisters debut and even for the debut of H2B's sisters so I was thinking of having the invites diy-ed by myself. Then I spotted Printed matter and they have invites for as low as 3K - 100 invites! WOW!!! Now, that's cheap. When I saw the actual P30-invite, it's not bad at all. Very simple yet not cheap-looking... exactly what I have in mind. I was also thinking that maybe I won't have the time to diy the invites later on and 3K for the invites is actually not bad at all! And Kerwin is very nice to talk to. Very straightforward, no BS rapport-building whatever.
So then come next day, H2B and I Skype-d to discuss what happened at the expo and unfortunately, he said no to all of the above. Actually, he said yes to Phoeben but took it back later on. He thinks that it's too early to book since we don't have the church and the reception yet. And what does a good wife-to-be do than to SUBMIT. *sigh I really wanted to lock the price already but I just had to submit.
I was ready to give the 10K downpayment to Phoeben Teocson videography. I actually had the chance to talk to him in the bridal fair. He seemed very humble and friendly. The rates are still the same as what he have in his website but he gives out more than 10K worth of freebies. As soon as I knew that a crane will be part of the freebies, I was sold. I saw his works online and both H2B and I are impressed! And the crane, oh the crane!!! Me likey!!! We we're actually quite sure that we want him to cover our wedding even if we haven't browsed all the other videographers out there so, why not give him 10K and lock the price and block the date?
I also almost booked Chito Vecina and Ramon Bautista as our photographers. Their are actually seasoned photographers and they both have worked for Inquirer and covered the weddings of celebrities like Claudine Barreto and Cheska Garcia. Chito's style is more on photojourn while Ramon's is more fashion-y. They actually have different teams but they have collaborated only for the expo. Their photo+video packages are also very affordable considering their talents and experience. I guess the drawback is that I haven't heard of their names in the wedding forums but they have explained to me that it's only recently that they are concentrating on wedding photography as a business; they we're inspired with the different celebrity weddings that they have covered. Plus, let's admit it. Wedding planning is becoming an industry already. *sigh
Even with all that pros for Chito and Ramon, I'm actually half-hearted yet because I also like Paul Vincent. He was also recommended of my very close, photo-enthusiast friends. My friends actually regret getting NicePrint and not getting Paul Vincent instead. I trust my friends and I've seen the works of Paul Vincent and me and H2B both liked it so much! I also saw him in the expo and I have the same feelings when I saw Phoeben, I was starstruck. The person behind the pictures and videos I've been drooling on are actually right in front of my face! They are both very talented individuals and I as soon as I saw thier works, I'm already a big fan. I want to book him too!!! Haha!
As for the invites, I actually talked to Wingdingz and Printed Matter. Wingdingz have very fresh yet elegant invites and the girl I've been chatting was so chica! Their prices are also affordable but then, I am really not particular with the invites. I've made invites for my own debut, both my sisters debut and even for the debut of H2B's sisters so I was thinking of having the invites diy-ed by myself. Then I spotted Printed matter and they have invites for as low as 3K - 100 invites! WOW!!! Now, that's cheap. When I saw the actual P30-invite, it's not bad at all. Very simple yet not cheap-looking... exactly what I have in mind. I was also thinking that maybe I won't have the time to diy the invites later on and 3K for the invites is actually not bad at all! And Kerwin is very nice to talk to. Very straightforward, no BS rapport-building whatever.
So then come next day, H2B and I Skype-d to discuss what happened at the expo and unfortunately, he said no to all of the above. Actually, he said yes to Phoeben but took it back later on. He thinks that it's too early to book since we don't have the church and the reception yet. And what does a good wife-to-be do than to SUBMIT. *sigh I really wanted to lock the price already but I just had to submit.
Monday, September 13, 2010
reality check: go back to square 1 and keep all options open
All of us wants to have that "Dream Wedding" but with the current economic situation and time constraints, its difficult to make your dream come true.
As I excitedly narate the progress of my research on all things wedding to H2B, I was wondering why he's half-happy and half-worried (?). I still continue with my story about all these wedding details because usually, it cheers him up. He gave me all the creative-freedom to make our wedding the kind that we and our loved ones would pleasantly remember. After a few minutes of talking about all these little knicks and knacks that I want for our wedding, he was still a little zoned-out. I thought he was just tired from the day's work but later on he said "I'm happy and excited. I like all your ideas. Keep doing that so I'll only need to worry about the expenses." So there.
I'm guilty. I never thought about the expenses. I just give him the numbers and entertain him with all these beautiful wedding ideas while he silently worries about our budget. I feel so bad but I still put on my mega-watt smile and offered to compute and figure it out. We don't need a lot of calculations, we know, our funds are not enough. I guess, this was the convincing that H2B neeeds, to consider civil wedding first. I've been telling him about this because I couldn't wait for two long years. We've been bf/gf for 9 years already. I don't want to wait for 2 to 3 years more to finally be with him so I was insisting on a civil wedding first due to insufficient funds. But, he don't want to settle so we compromised to 2 years, a nice church wedding.
I was telling him yesterday that I will go to the church today and ask for the availability of the date we want, terms of payment and what have you. I told him, if my cash is enough, I'll reserve the church pronto. I guess that was the reality check we needed. It'll be less than two years from now and as we compute for our future earnings and savings versus expenses, there's a big disconnect - it's scary.
So now, we are back to square 1. Church or Civil? Date?
take it easy,
W2B
As I excitedly narate the progress of my research on all things wedding to H2B, I was wondering why he's half-happy and half-worried (?). I still continue with my story about all these wedding details because usually, it cheers him up. He gave me all the creative-freedom to make our wedding the kind that we and our loved ones would pleasantly remember. After a few minutes of talking about all these little knicks and knacks that I want for our wedding, he was still a little zoned-out. I thought he was just tired from the day's work but later on he said "I'm happy and excited. I like all your ideas. Keep doing that so I'll only need to worry about the expenses." So there.
I'm guilty. I never thought about the expenses. I just give him the numbers and entertain him with all these beautiful wedding ideas while he silently worries about our budget. I feel so bad but I still put on my mega-watt smile and offered to compute and figure it out. We don't need a lot of calculations, we know, our funds are not enough. I guess, this was the convincing that H2B neeeds, to consider civil wedding first. I've been telling him about this because I couldn't wait for two long years. We've been bf/gf for 9 years already. I don't want to wait for 2 to 3 years more to finally be with him so I was insisting on a civil wedding first due to insufficient funds. But, he don't want to settle so we compromised to 2 years, a nice church wedding.
I was telling him yesterday that I will go to the church today and ask for the availability of the date we want, terms of payment and what have you. I told him, if my cash is enough, I'll reserve the church pronto. I guess that was the reality check we needed. It'll be less than two years from now and as we compute for our future earnings and savings versus expenses, there's a big disconnect - it's scary.
So now, we are back to square 1. Church or Civil? Date?
take it easy,
W2B
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